Have you ever made a choice and later regretted the choice you made? After considering the outcome, you reflected on your original thought process behind the choice you made and asked yourself, "what was I thinking" or "why did I really do that"? Reflecting on the the choices we make is a good practice to follow. It doesn't really matter if the outcome was favorable or not, it's good to check yourself and determine why you made the choice that you did. The choices we make are indicators for each individual to do a self-diagnosis on our true character. It helps us to get to core of true motive and proves to be self-defining. One of my mentors challenged me to do something each time I made a decision, particularly a major decision; to ask myself the question "why?" at least five times. By the fifth answered "why?", I will prove my real motive and intent on my decision. That was a challenge because by the third "why?" I really wanted to say to myself "because I want to". The challenge, as I recall, was to be one of pure honesty with myself. I had to be honest with each answer to the "why?" question, otherwise the exercise was in-itself was futile.
I have determined that the choices we make, rather selfish or not, will impact our lives for years to come. Our choices put such definition to our lives and impacts us nearly for the rest of our lives. Our parents always told us to be careful about the decisions that we make it life; to make good choices. Choices about the friends we have, the loves in our lives, where we live, the jobs we work at; choices to be kind, to love, to respect our fellow man, demonstrate our humanity that will encompass a universal care for another human being. I must admit that I am so concern about the younger generation today and the downward spiral of so many of them because of the choices they are making that seem to point them in that direction. You know the saying "birds of feather"......, that's true; however, sometimes birds when they flock together and find themselves among birds of another flock and realize they are not same kind of bird. Oftentimes they continue flying with the wrong birds and end up flying smack dab into a brick wall. My advice to those people is to make a decision to get away from the wrong birds that's not even your kind and find the right flock. Sorry for the bird analogy but you get the point.
I hurt for the parents today that have children who've made some really detrimental choices in their lives. I hurt because those choices have left the parents with holes in their hearts because it's unimaginable to think that their child would make bad choices such as rape, murder, or robbery. These things are hard to face for anyone, but knowing that your child was responsible is unfathomable. The bible instructs parent to train up their children in the way that they should go......some times, the parents themselves don't know the way they should go. It's frightening to think that they are no boundaries set; there is no guide, no landmarks so there are no constraints to what is off limits. We can't just do what we want to do; grown or not. God give every man (mankind) all the ability to choose. Yes, we are free to make choices; then our choices make us.
My prayer is that we individually take a deeper look into why we choose this over that. That choice can make us or break us. Choose wisely!
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